Post 16: value

December 20, 2023

Ugh. Small hiatus, but we’re back.

Ya know how they say, “You’ll just know,” When referencing finding “the one?” I’ve always struggled with this—like, to an excessive point for someone who’s never been in the position to have to “know” if she has found the one.

I think a big part of my confusion around this statement is that it’s all based on a feeling. But the more I think about it, I think it may be based on fact. Because, and hang with me…I think feelings happen from facts—they are solidified in consistent and repetitive action (which are nearly tangible, and very obvious, facts). At least, in the sense of knowing if someone is right for you. It’s like…

When someone shows you who they are, believe them. Actions are a language.

• I feel valuable, why? Because someone consistently made the time and effort to acknowledge my value. When someone says you’re valuable to them without first discovering your value, that’s just an empty sentiment. But when someone makes you feel valuable because you know they see your value due to their consistent time and effort and intentionality, that’s amazing.

I am so thankful to have times in my life where I have been made to feel so full of worth when the past few years absolutely obliterated any feeling of worthiness. I am thankful that I can recognize that what I previously felt (although it was extreme confusion at the time) was a devaluation of worth and character and honestly, humanity. And I also know what it feels like to feel seen and valued, and I am so thankful for that. I know what it feels like to have someone learn the little things about you without having to ask.

When someone recalls a little fact about you without being asked, that’s how you know they value you.

When someone prioritizes you.

When someone prays for you.

whyiscchappy? growth.